One of the most popular ways of getting stuck is to believe that if someone else would just change then everything would be better. Generally this includes a story about how the problem happened, why it happened and how it was really the other person’s fault. There will be an admission of the small part the individual played in the conflict but this is always followed by the idea that ultimately it was the other person’s unreasonable behavior that escalated things. Finally, the individual will have a long list of strategies they’ve tried to use to deal with the offender.
There is always some roadblock to letting go of this pattern. Almost always, under that roadblock is a “fight or flight” response that is primal in nature. An anger that is unable to examine its own extreme and irrational nature.
This month I’d like to ask you to consider one area where you’re stuck; one area where you’re waiting for someone to change. Consider if there was a third option for you, what would that be? And, since there is a third option, whether you would be willing to chose that for your own personal growth.
Have a great month.
John
There is always some roadblock to letting go of this pattern. Almost always, under that roadblock is a “fight or flight” response that is primal in nature. An anger that is unable to examine its own extreme and irrational nature.
This month I’d like to ask you to consider one area where you’re stuck; one area where you’re waiting for someone to change. Consider if there was a third option for you, what would that be? And, since there is a third option, whether you would be willing to chose that for your own personal growth.
Have a great month.
John
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