Victor Frankl once said that in the time between something happening and our reaction to it we have a moment to choose a response. That moment and our ability to use it reflect our level of growth and our freedom.
Some people ignore that moment, instead choosing to believe they’re victims of others’ actions. Those in this group will most often get angry and rage on the other person. This person goes through life reacting to others and wondering why they don’t grow up.
Others may recognize the moment but see their only choice as to either hold in their feelings or to have an angry outburst. For these people, they experience a conflict. They know that they have a choice but in many ways it seems they are letting others take advantage of them. In recovery these people are often frustrated, on the one hand knowing that anger is destructive but on the other still feeling like they’re victims of others’ behavior.
A final group are those who watch others and try to figure out what they can do to get the best outcome. There is a level of detachment, a moment where the person looks for what will bring about the best outcome. The freedom the person has gained is the ability to let go of the need to control and instead seeks out the best course of action given the circumstances.
This July 4th may you experience freedom in your recovery. May you see that moment and the choices it presents for your growth.
Some people ignore that moment, instead choosing to believe they’re victims of others’ actions. Those in this group will most often get angry and rage on the other person. This person goes through life reacting to others and wondering why they don’t grow up.
Others may recognize the moment but see their only choice as to either hold in their feelings or to have an angry outburst. For these people, they experience a conflict. They know that they have a choice but in many ways it seems they are letting others take advantage of them. In recovery these people are often frustrated, on the one hand knowing that anger is destructive but on the other still feeling like they’re victims of others’ behavior.
A final group are those who watch others and try to figure out what they can do to get the best outcome. There is a level of detachment, a moment where the person looks for what will bring about the best outcome. The freedom the person has gained is the ability to let go of the need to control and instead seeks out the best course of action given the circumstances.
This July 4th may you experience freedom in your recovery. May you see that moment and the choices it presents for your growth.
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